Would the real question please stand up?
Originally posted on October 28, 2019
My dear friends;
It has been a while since I published my last post, and I want to thank you for holding this space for me. For the past several months, I have been investing in myself through intensive spiritual coaching that has me expanding myself in powerful new ways. One of the greatest benefits of this is that I have so much more to offer you, now.
Today, I want to share with you a profound little story about our kittens. They are like most kittens: playful, funny, super cute, loving, hungry, curious. But they have been doing something lately that makes me really angry. We have a full patio screen door, and the little rascals climb up this thing ALL. DAY. LONG. I’m sure it feels amazing to stretch their little claws, and they get to peer into the house to see what’s going on with the humans. Awesome, right? No. Not awesome.
Why Mark Noble? Why?
The problem is that I have been having such a strong anger reaction when I see them climbing the screen. Nothing I have done has effectively taught them that this is undesirable behaviour. This morning I actually asked them (very loudly) what it was going to take for them to figure it out. That wasn’t as effective as you might think **facepalm**.
When they climb, I run to the door and chase them off, which sucks for two reasons: 1. they feel scared; and 2. they aren’t as friendly with me anymore because I am the crazy person who scares them. I’m also the one who feeds them, cleans their litter, and pets them lovingly, so I can imagine that is pretty confusing for them.
Today after realizing that this is bothering me a little too much, I asked myself what the real question is.
It turns out, the real question is, “Why am I so attached to the screen door?” Seriously, what is it that I love so much about the screen door?
When I look honestly, I can see that it is simply the loitering fragments of my old scarcity mindset. That actually makes me shudder a little, because I have been training myself to have an abundant mindset. And this is why this story is profound. Even though we think we have made a full shift, we need to stay mindful every day so that bad habits don’t set back into their default position.
Getting angry about the cats climbing the screen door exposed my desire for the preservation of a physical thing because I don’t want to have to replace it and use money to do so. Scarcity mindset shows up all over that one. Can you see it? An abundance mindset would choose to not be angry because the screen door can always be fixed, and that there will always be money to cover these things.
What would happen if I ditched my scarcity mindset? If I could see the cats climb the screen and just laugh at and enjoy how funny and inquisitive they are, how would that mindset serve me?
Firstly, I wouldn’t be angry. That would be awesome. I would, instead, feel happiness out of appreciation for our silly kittens. I would be in a state of higher vibration versus the low vibration of anger. I would be in a state of allowing instead of resisting, being in the flow of life. And I would enjoy a closer more loving connection with our wee, sweet kitties.
Looking at this little story from this new perspective, I can make different choices that create freedom and happiness in my life and allow for the flowing abundance from the universe. It’s always about choices. I was choosing to be angry; and I can choose differently.
Now, I am choosing to allow the kittens to climb the screen. And when they do, I am choosing to appreciate how cute and funny they are. I am choosing an abundance mindset instead of a scarcity mindset, knowing that if the screen door needs to be changed at some point in the future because it has holes in it from the cats’ claws, I will have more than enough resources to take care of it. Because abundance is my birthright. And it’s yours, too.
I desire happiness over anger any day.
What are you currently choosing that is making you feel angry, upset, shame, disappointment, or frustration? Can you choose to shift your mindset and your perception about it so that you see it newly in a way that keeps your vibration high, in happiness, gratitude, and love?
I hope my little story has served you somehow. I would love to hear from you and would enjoy receiving your comments or answers to the questions I asked above.
Have a great week! Let’s connect again next Monday!
Big love,
Leanne.